Impendulo lemfishane
Buta kutsi umuntfu ufuna kubitwa njani, ufuna kubandakanya bobani futsi yini lafuna yabelwane ngayo. Hlonipha balingani kanye nemndeni lokhetsiwe, vikela bumfihlo, futsi buta bahlinzeki bekunakekela kutsi tinchubomgomo tabo tisebenta njani ekuphileni kwansuku tonkhe.
- Buta ngeligama lemuntfu, tibitelo takhe, budlelwane bakhe kanye netifiso takhe tebumfihlo; ungacabangi.
- Vumela umuntfu akhetse kutsi wabelana ngelwati lwakhe loluyimfihlo nini, nabobani futsi nekutsi uyafuna yini.
- Buta kutsi umuntfu ubona bobani njengemndeni wakhe nekutsi bobani labangatitfola tindzaba takhe noma bavakashe.
- Hlola kutsi bahlinzeki bekunakekela babubhala njani lobunikati, babuvikela njani bumfihlo futsi batiphatsa njani tinkhatsato.
- Bunikati bubalulekile, kodvwa buyincenye yinye kuphela yemphilo yemuntfu kanye nekunakekelwa kwakhe.
Kulelikhasi (tingcenye 4)
Bunikati bemuntfu we-LGBTQ+ buyincenye yinye yaloko langiko. Buta kutsi yini lebalulekile kuye, sebentisa emagama lakhetsako, futsi umvumele ancume kutsi ngubani longati imininingwane yakhe leyimfihlo. Ungacabangi bunikati bemuntfu, umlingani wakhe, kusekelwa ngumndeni noma tifiso takhe tebumfihlo ngekubuka indlela labukeka ngayo, emarekhodi lamadzala noma labo labavakashako.
Sicondziso se-Alzheimer’s Society sekusekela umuntfu we-LGBTQ+ lophila nesifo sekukhohlwa sincoma kubuta ngetifiso temuntfu nekugwema kucabanga ngebudlelwane. Imitfombo ye-Alzheimer’s Association yebantfu be-LGBTQ+ labaphila nesifo sekukhohlwa iphindze ichaze kukhatsateka ngekubandlululwa kanye nekutfola kunakekelwa lokwemukelako. Bantfu bayehluka; sebentisa lemibono njengetikhumbuto tekucoca, hhayi njengeluhlu loluchaza umuntfu.
Ngingabuta njani ngeligama, tibitelo kanye nebumfihlo?
Khetsa sikhatsi sangasese, lesingenakujaha. Ungabuta utsi: „Nguliphi ligama netibitelo lofuna kutsi sitisebentise?“ noma „Kukhona yini mayelana nebunikati bakho noma budlelwane bakho lofuna kutsi labo labakusekelako bakwati?“ Umuntfu angaphendvula kancane, atsi cha, noma abuyele kulendzaba kamuva. Akudzingeki kutsi ubute imibuto leyimfihlo lengahlobani nekunakekelwa kwakhe.
Buta kutsi ngubani longati ini. Lomunye umuntfu angafuna kutsi basebenti bemukele umlingani wakhe, kodvwa angafuni kutsi umndeni wakhe wonkhe utjelwe ngekutsandzana kwakhe noma bunikati bakhe bebulili. Umuntfu angaphindze akhetse emagama lahlukene etindzaweni letehlukene. Ungabelani nemininingwane yebunikati netihlobo, bavakashi noma basebenti ngobe nje wena uyati.
Nangabe umuntfu afuna kutsi lokukhetsa kwakhe kubhalwe phansi, buta kutsi yini lokufanele ibhalwe nekutsi ngubani lokufanele ayibone. Hlola kutsi umhlinzeki uphatsa njani ligama lelehlukile kulelinye emarekhodini, kufaka ekhatsi kutsi basebenti bangalisebentisa yini ligama umuntfu lalikhetsako nabakhuluma naye. Gcina bumfihlo bemuntfu engcondvweni; akusibo bonkhe labasita ngekunakekela labadzinga kwati yonkhe imininingwane.
Tifiso tingagucuka. Phindze uhlole uma umuntfu akhona kuveza loko lakukhetsako, ikakhulukati ngaphambi kwekutfutsa noma kuhlelwa lokusha kwekunakekela. Nangabe kungacaci kutsi ufuna kwabelwane ngani, ungacabangi. Landzela nome ngukuphi kukhetsa lokucacile lake wakusho ngaphambili futsi ucele lusito kuchwepheshe lofanelekako wendzawo ngemibuto lephatselene nemagunya ekunakekela noma imitsetfo yekwabelana ngelwati.
Ngubani lokufanele afakwe etingcocweni tekunakekela?
Buta umuntfu kutsi wetsemba bobani futsi ufuna kubandakanya bobani. Inethiwekhi yakhe yekusekelwa ingafaka ekhatsi umuntfu lashade naye, umlingani, umngani losondzele, sihlobo noma „umndeni lokhetsiwe“ — bantfu labamsekela njengemndeni ngisho noma bangahlobani ngengati. Labanye bantfu betsembele emndenini labatalelwa kuwo; labanye abetsembele kuwo. Vumela umuntfu achaze budlelwane bakhe ngawo emagama akhe.
Buta imibuto lesebentako: Ngubani longavakasha? Ngubani lokufanele basebenti bashayele lucingo nangabe tinhlelo tigucuka? Ngubani longatfola tindzaba letisha? Nangabe umhlinzeki adzinga imvume noma emaphepha ngaphambi kwekwabelana ngelwati, buta kutsi udzingani futsi uchaze letinketho kumuntfu. Kuba ngumlingani noma umsekeli lokhetsiwe akusho ngokuzenzakalelayo kutsi uneligunya lekusemtsetfweni lekutsatsa tincumo; imitsetfo iyehluka kuye ngendzawo.
Sebentisa ligama lebudlelwane umuntfu lalikhetsako. Umsebenti wekunakekela lobita umlingani ngekutsi „umngani“ noma „sihlobo“ lapho umuntfu afuna kutsi abonwe njengemlingani wakhe kungabangela kuhlupheka. Sibhidvo lesifishane, lesisekelwe emvumeni, singatjela basebenti kutsi babetfule njani bantfu nekutsi ngutiphi imininingwane lengabelwana ngayo.
Yini lengingayibuta umhlinzeki wekunakekela?
Nawucatsanisa kunakekelwa kwasekhaya lekunakekela, kusekelwa kwasekhaya noma tinsita temasuku, buta umuntfu kutsi ngiyiphi imibuto lafuna kuyiphakamisa nekutsi ufuna kutsi ube khona yini. Sicondziso se-SAGE sekutfola tinsita letemukelako siyaphawula kutsi kwabelana ngelwati loluyimfihlo nemhlinzeki kungativa kulula kuba sengotini. Cela umhlinzeki achaze tindlela takhe takhona nyalo ngemagama lamelula.
- Nilibhala njani ligama lelitsandvwako netibitelo? Ngubaphi basebenti labangabona lolwati?
- Umuntfu angakhetsa njani kutsi ngubani lovakashako futsi abe nesikhatsi sangasese nemlingani noma lomunye umsekeli?
- Nifundza njani futsi nihlonephe njani tifiso temuntfu mayelana nekuhlala ekamelweni, tembatfo kanye nekunakekelwa kwemtimba?
- Ngukuceceshwa kuni lokutfolwa basebenti mayelana nebantfu labadzala be-LGBTQ+ kanye nesifo sekukhohlwa?
- Umhlali noma umsekeli angayiphakamisa njani inkhatsato lephatselene nebumfihlo noma kungahlonishwa, futsi kwentekani ngemuva kwaloko?
Sicondziso se-SAGE kanye ne-Human Rights Campaign Foundation sekunakekelwa kwesikhatsi lesidze lokufaka bonkhe siphakamisa kuhlola tinchubomgomo letibhaliwe mayelana nekuvakasha, kuhlala ekamelweni kanye nendlela basebenti labasebenta ngayo. Lashicilelwa nga-2021; lisebentise njengemibuto yekubuta, hhayi njengesitatimende semtsetfo wendzawo lokhona nyalo. Tinchubomgomo kanye netinsita kuyehluka kuye ngendzawo.
Luphawu, incwajana noma imphendvulo yinye ledvudvutako akukwati kucinisekisa kutsi kunakekelwa kwansuku tonkhe kutawuba njani. Nangabe umuntfu afuna kuvakasha, naka kutsi basebenti bakhuluma naye njani nekutsi baphendvula njani kumlingani wakhe noma kubasekeli bakhe labakhetsiwe. Cela kukhuluma nemsebenti ngasese uma loko kungasita umuntfu ative aphephile.
Ngingamsekela njani umuntfu wonkhe?
Buta ngetintfo umuntfu latitsandzako ekuphileni kwansuku tonkhe, tinchubo takhe, lulwimi, emasiko, kukholwa, bangani kanye nemphakatsi wakhe. Bunikati bakhe bungabaluleka kukhulunywa ngabo, noma angakhetsa kucitsa sikhatsi ngaletinye tincenye temphilo. Ungaguculi konkhe kuvakasha kube yingcoco ngebunikati noma ucabange kutsi bonkhe bantfu be-LGBTQ+ bebadlule etintfweni letifanako.
Labanye bantfu bake balahlwa noma babandlululwa futsi bangativa baqaphele mayelana netinsita. Labanye bangakuboni loku njengenkhatsato. Lalela ngaphandle kwekucela umuntfu kutsi achaze noma afakazele lutfo. Nangabe inkumbulo, sitfombe noma indzaba lemayelana nesikhatsi lesendlulile imvisa buhlungu, buta kutsi ufuna kuyekela yini noma kushintja sihloko.
Nangabe ungumlingani, umngani noma sihlobo, kusekelwa kwakho nawe kubalulekile. Buta umuntfu kutsi ufuna kutsi ubambe njani incenye, futsi ufune inhlangano yendzawo yesifo sekukhohlwa noma yebantfu labadzala be-LGBTQ+ uma udzinga seluleko. Likhasi lemitfombo ye-Alzheimer’s Association lineluchungechunge lwemitfombo yemphakatsi neyalabanakekelako; lokutfolakalako kuyehluka kuye ngendzawo lohlala kuyo.
Ngetulu kweluhlu lolubanti nawucatsanisa emakhaya ekunakekela, buka kukhetsa kunakekelwa kwasekhaya kwesifo sekukhohlwa. Ngelusito lwekuhlela ngemuva kwekuhlolwa, buka tinyatselo tekucala ngemuva kwekuhlolwa kwesifo sekukhohlwa.
Imibuto lejwayelekile
Kufanele yini ngitjele basebenti bekunakekela kutsi umuntfu uyi-LGBTQ+?
Buta umuntfu kutsi ufuna basebenti bati ini nekutsi ngubani longakwati. Yabelana ngaloko kuphela lavuma kukwabelana ngako uma kungenteka, futsi ubute umhlinzeki kutsi lolwati lutawubhalwa njani nekutsi ngubani longalubona.
Ngubani lokufanele abambe incenye etingcocweni tekunakekela?
Buta umuntfu kutsi wetsemba bobani futsi ufuna kufaka bobani. Loku kungaba ngumlingani, umngani, sihlobo noma umndeni lokhetsiwe; ungacabangi kutsi sihlobo sengati ngiso lesikhetsiwe kutsi kuchumane naso.
Yini lokufanele ngiyibute ekhaya lekunakekela mayelana nekufaka i-LGBTQ+?
Buta ngemagama netibitelo emarekhodini, bavakashi nesikhatsi sangasese, tifiso tekuhlala ekamelweni kanye tekunakekelwa kwemtimba, kuceceshwa kwebasebenti, nekutsi tinkhatsato tiphatfwa njani. Cela tinchubomgomo letibhaliwe letikhona nyalo uma tibalulekile.
Kwentekani nangabe umuntfu agucula loko lafuna kukwabelana ngako?
Tifiso tingahluka kuye ngemuntfu, indzawo nesikhatsi. Phindze uhlole nemuntfu futsi uma kungenteka, futsi ungawadaluli emaciniso lasuselwa engcocweni leyendlulile nangabe nyalo akucela kutsi uwagcine ayimfihlo.
Imithombo
Sihlanganisa emabhizinisi nemifundvo lelikhasi lusekelwe kuyo. Ngayinye yahlolwa ngesikhatsi likhasi lelivuselelwa.
- Supporting an LGBTQ+ person with dementia · Alzheimer's Society
- LGBTQ+ Community Dementia Resources · Alzheimer's Association
- 10 Tips for Finding LGBT-Affirming Services · SAGE
- Finding an LGBTQ+ Inclusive Long-Term Care Community · SAGE and Human Rights Campaign Foundation