Te tautoko i te tangata LGBTQ+ me te mate wareware

Ko te tuakiri o te tangata LGBTQ+ he wāhanga noa iho o tōna tangata. Pātaihia he aha ngā mea nui ki a ia, whakamahia ngā kupu e whiriwhiri ana ia, ā, tukua māna e whakatau ko wai ka mōhio ki ōna taipitopito whaiaro. Kaua e whakaaro noa mō te tuakiri, te hoa, te tautoko a te whānau, ngā hiahia tūmataitinga rānei o te tangata i tōna āhua, i ngā tuhinga tawhito, i te hunga rānei e toro mai ana.

E taunaki ana te aratohu a Alzheimer’s Society mō te tautoko i te tangata LGBTQ+ e noho ana me te mate wareware kia pātaihia ngā hiahia o te tangata, ā, kia kaua e whakaaro noa mō ngā hononga. E whakaahua ana hoki ngā rauemi mate wareware LGBTQ+ a Alzheimer’s Association i ngā āwangawanga mō te whakatoi me te kimi tiaki manaaki. He rerekē ngā tāngata; whakamahia ēnei whakaaro hei tīmatanga kōrero, kaua hei rārangi arowhai hei tautuhi i te tangata.

Me pēhea taku pātai mō te ingoa, ngā kupu tūkapi me te tūmataitinga?

Kōwhiria he wā tūmataiti, he wā kāore e tere. Ka taea e koe te pātai, “He aha te ingoa me ngā kupu tūkapi e hiahia ana koe kia whakamahia?” rānei, “He mea rānei mō tō tuakiri, mō ō hononga rānei e hiahia ana koe kia mōhio ai te hunga e tautoko ana i a koe?” Ka taea e te tangata te whakautu āhua noa, te kī kāo, te hoki mai rānei ki tēnei kōrero ā muri ake. Kāore he take ki te pātai i ngā pātai whaiaro kāore e hāngai ana ki tōna tiaki.

Pātaihia ko wai ka mōhio ki ēhea mea. Tērā pea e hiahia ana tētahi kia mōhiotia tōna hoa e ngā kaimahi, engari kāore e hiahia kia kōrerotia tōna aronga hōkaka, tōna tuakiri ira rānei ki te whānau whānui. Ka pai ake pea ki te tangata ētahi kupu rerekē i ētahi wāhi rerekē. Kaua e kōrerotia ngā taipitopito tuakiri ki ngā whanaunga, ki ngā manuhiri, ki ngā kaimahi rānei nā te mea noa kua mōhio koe.

Mēnā e hiahia ana te tangata kia tuhia tētahi hiahia, pātaihia he aha te mea hei tuhi, ā, ko wai me kite. Tirohia me pēhea te whakahaere a te kaiwhakarato i tētahi ingoa e rerekē ana i ētahi atu tuhinga, tae atu ki te āhei o ngā kaimahi ki te whakamahi i te ingoa e pai ana ki te tangata i roto i te kōrero. Kia mau ki te tūmataitinga o te tangata; ehara i te mea me mōhio te katoa e āwhina ana i te tiaki ki ngā taipitopito katoa.

Ka taea ngā hiahia te huri. Tirohia anō ina taea e te tangata te whakaputa i tana whiringa, inā koa i mua i te nuku, i tētahi whakaritenga tiaki hou rānei. Mēnā kāore i te mārama he aha tāna e hiahia ana kia kōrerotia, kaua e whakaaro noa. Whāia ngā hiahia mārama i tukuna i mua, ā, tonoa he āwhina i tētahi tohunga ā-rohe whai tohu mō ngā pātai e pā ana ki te mana tiaki, ki ngā ture kōrero mōhiohio rānei.

Ko wai me whai wāhi ki ngā kōrerorero mō te tiaki?

Pātaihia ki te tangata ko wai e whakawhirinaki ana ia, ā, ko wai e hiahia ana ia kia uru mai. Kei roto pea i tana whatunga tautoko he hoa rangatira, he hoa, he hoa piri, he whanaunga, he “whānau kua whiria” rānei — he tāngata e tautoko ana i a ia pērā i te whānau ahakoa kāore he hononga toto. Ko ētahi e whakawhirinaki ana ki te whānau whānau; ko ētahi kāore. Tukuna mā te tangata anō e whakamārama ōna hononga ki āna ake kupu.

Pātaihia ngā pātai whaihua: Ko wai ka āhei te toro atu? Ko wai me waea atu e ngā kaimahi mēnā ka huri ngā mahere? Ko wai ka whiwhi kōrero hou? Mēnā e hiahia ana te kaiwhakarato i te whakaaetanga, i ngā pepa rānei i mua i te kōrero mōhiohio, pātaihia he aha e hiahiatia ana, ā, whakamāramahia ngā kōwhiringa ki te tangata. Ehara i te mea ko te noho hei hoa, hei kaitautoko kua whiria rānei, ka whai mana ture aunoa ki te whakatau; he rerekē ngā ture i ia wāhi.

Whakamahia te ingoa hononga e pai ana ki te tangata. Mēnā ka kīia e te kaimahi tiaki te hoa hei “hoa piri” hei “whanaunga” rānei i te wā e hiahia ana te tangata kia mōhiotia hei hoa, ka mamae pea te tangata. Ka taea e tētahi tuhipoka poto, i runga i te whakaaetanga, te whakamōhio ki ngā kaimahi me pēhea te whakamōhio i te tangata, ā, he aha ngā taipitopito ka āhei te kōrerotia.

He aha aku pātai ki tētahi kaiwhakarato tiaki?

Ina whakataurite ana i te tiaki noho, i te tautoko i te kāinga, i ngā ratonga awatea rānei, pātaihia ki te tangata ko ēhea pātai e hiahia ana ia kia puta, ā, mehemea e hiahia ana ia kia haere tahi koe. E kī ana te aratohu a SAGE mō ngā ratonga tautoko ka noho whakaraerae pea te kōrero i ngā mōhiohio whaiaro ki te kaiwhakarato. Tonoa te kaiwhakarato kia whakamārama i āna tikanga o nāianei ki ngā kupu māmā.

• Me pēhea tā koutou tuhi i te ingoa me ngā kupu tūkapi e pai ana? Ko ēhea kaimahi ka kite i aua mōhiohio?
• Me pēhea e taea ai e te tangata te whiriwhiri ko wai ka toro atu, ā, kia whai wā motuhake ki te hoa, ki tētahi atu kaitautoko rānei?
• Me pēhea tā koutou ako me te whakahonore i ngā hiahia o te tangata mō te rūma, ngā kākahu me te tiaki whaiaro?
• He aha te whakangungu ka whiwhi ngā kaimahi mō ngā kaumātua LGBTQ+ me te mate wareware?
• Me pēhea te tuku āwangawanga a te kainoho, a te kaitautoko rānei mō te tūmataitinga, mō te kore whakahonore rānei, ā, ka aha i muri iho?

E tūtohu ana te aratohu a SAGE me Human Rights Campaign Foundation mō te tiaki wā roa whakauru kia tirohia ngā kaupapa here ā-tuhi mō te toro atu, te rūma me ngā tikanga kaimahi. I tāngia i te tau 2021; whakamahia hei pātai hei ui, kaua hei kōrero mō te ture ā-rohe o nāianei. He rerekē ngā kaupapa here me ngā ratonga i ia wāhi.

Kāore e taea e te tohu, te pānui whakamārama, te whakautu whakamarie kotahi rānei te kī pū he pēhea te tiaki i ia rā. Mēnā e hiahia ana te tangata ki te toro atu, tirohia me pēhea te kōrero a ngā kaimahi ki a ia, me te urupare ki tōna hoa, ki ōna kaitautoko kua whiria rānei. Tonoa kia kōrero motuhake ki tētahi kaimahi mēnā ka āwhina tēnā kia noho haumaru te tangata.

Me pēhea taku tautoko i te tangata katoa?

Pātaihia mō ngā mahi o ia rā, ngā tikanga, te reo, te ahurea, te whakapono, ngā hoa me te hapori o te tangata. He mea nui pea te kōrero mō tōna tuakiri, he pai ake rānei ki a ia te noho ki ētahi atu wāhanga o te oranga. Kaua e huri i ia toronga hei kōrero mō te tuakiri, kaua hoki e whakaaro noa he ōrite ngā wheako o ngā tāngata LGBTQ+ katoa.

Kua pā pea te whakakore, te whakahāwea rānei ki ētahi tāngata, ā, ka tūpato pea rātou ki ngā ratonga. Ki ētahi atu, ehara tēnei i te āwangawanga. Whakarongo mai, kaua e tono i te tangata kia whakamārama, kia whakaatu rānei i tētahi mea. Mēnā ka pouri te tangata i tētahi maharatanga, i tētahi whakaahua, i tētahi kōrero rānei mō mua, pātaihia mēnā e hiahia ana ia ki te whakamutu, ki te huri kaupapa rānei.

Mēnā he hoa, he hoa piri, he whanaunga rānei koe, he mea nui hoki tō ake tautoko. Pātaihia ki te tangata me pēhea tōna hiahia kia whai wāhi mai koe, ā, rapua he rōpū ā-rohe mō te mate wareware, mō te kaumātua LGBTQ+ rānei mēnā e hiahia tohutohu ana koe. E hono ana te whārangi rauemi a Alzheimer’s Association ki ngā rauemi hapori me ngā rauemi kaitautoko; ka rerekē ngā mea e wātea ana i te wāhi e noho ana koe.

Mō tētahi rārangi arowhai whānui ake ina whakataurite ana i ngā kāinga tiaki, tirohia te whiriwhiri i te tiaki noho mō te mate wareware. Mō te āwhina ki te whakamahere i muri i te tātaritanga, tirohia ngā mahi tuatahi i muri i te tātaritanga mate wareware.