Ipendulo efitjhani
Buza umuntu bona ufuna ukubizwa njani, ufuna kubandakanywe bobani nokuthi ufuna kwabelwane ngani. Hlonipha abalingani nomndeni okhethwe nguye, vikela ifihlo lakhe, begodu ubuze abanikeli bokunakekela ngendlela imithetho yabo esebenza ngayo qobe langa.
- Buza ngegama lomuntu, indlela afuna ukubizwa ngayo, ubudlelwano bakhe nalokho afuna kuhlale kuyifihlo; ungacabangi.
- Vumela umuntu akhethe bona ufuna ukwabelana ngani, nini begodu nobani ngemininingwana yakhe.
- Buza bona umuntu ubona bobani njengomndeni nokuthi bobani abangathola imininingwana namkha bangavakatjha.
- Hlola indlela abanikeli bokunakekela abatlolisa ngayo okuthandwa mumuntu, indlela abavikela ngayo ifihlo nokuthi baphendula njani eemrarweni.
- Ibizo lomuntu liqakathekile, kodwana liyingcenye yinye yepilo yakhe nokunakekelwa kwakhe.
Ekhsini eli (iingcenye eziyi-4)
Ibizo lomuntu we-LGBTQ+ liyingcenye yinye yalokho ayikho. Buza bona yini eqakatheke kuye, sebenzisa amagama awakhethako, begodu mvumele akhethe bona bobani abangazi imininingwana yakhe. Ungacabangi ibizo lomuntu, umlingani wakhe, isekelo lomndeni namkha lokho afuna kuhlale kuyifihlo ngokuya ngendlela abonakala ngayo, amarekhodi wakade namkha labo abavakathako.
Umhlahlandlela we-Alzheimer’s Society wokusekela umuntu we-LGBTQ+ ophila nokukhohlwa okukhulu ukhuthaza ukubuza ngalokho umuntu akufunako nokubalekela ukucabanga ngobudlelwano bakhe. Imithombo ye-Alzheimer’s Association yabantu be-LGBTQ+ abaphila nokukhohlwa okukhulu nayo ikhuluma ngokutshwenyeka mayelana nokubandlululwa nokuthola ukunakekelwa okwamukelako. Abantu bayahluka; sebenzisa imibono le njengeengonghoyilo zengcoco, ingasi irhelo elihlathulula umuntu.
Ngingabuza njani ngegama, indlela yokubizwa nangefihlo?
Khetha isikhathi sangasese nesingatjhiriyiko. Ungabuza uthi, “Ngiliphi igama nendlela yokubizwa ofuna siyisebenzise?” namkha “Kukhona okuthileko mayelana nebizo lakho namkha ubudlelwano bakho ofuna labo abakusekelako bakwazi?” Umuntu angaphendula ingcenye, atjho ukuthi awa, namkha abuyele endabeni le ngokukhamba kwesikhathi. Akutlhogeki bona ubuze imibuzo yomuntu mathupha engahlobani nokunakekelwa kwakhe.
Buza bona bobani abangazi ini. Omunye umuntu angafuna umlingani wakhe amukelwe basebenzi kodwana angafuni umndeni wakhe woke waziswe ngobulili bakhe namkha ibizo lakhe lobulili. Umuntu angakhetha namagama ahlukileko eendaweni ezihlukileko. Ungabelani ngemininingwana yebizo lomuntu neenhlobo, abavakatjhi namkha abasebenzi ngebanga lokuthi uyayazi.
Nangabe umuntu ufuna okuthileko kutlolwe, buza bona kufanele kutlolwe njani nokuthi bobani okufanele bakubone. Hlola indlela umnikeli aphatha ngayo igama elihlukileko kwamanye amarekhodi, kuhlanganise nokuthi abasebenzi bangalisebenzisa na igama alithandako lokukhulumisana. Gcina ifihlo lomuntu engqondweni; akusi ngibo boke abasiza ngokunakekelwa abatlhoga yoke imininingwana.
Okuthandwa mumuntu kungatjhuguluka. Buza godu nangabe umuntu angakghona ukuveza ukukhetha kwakhe, khulukhulu ngaphambi kokuthutha namkha ukutjhugulula ihlelo lokunakekelwa. Nangabe akukacaci bona ufuna kwabelwane ngani, ungacabangi. Landela nanyana ngikuphi ukukhetha okucacileko akukhulume ngaphambilini begodu ubuze umuntu ofanelekako endaweni yangakini bona akusize ngemibuzo mayelana negunya lokunakekela namkha imithetho yokwabelana ngemininingwana.
Bobani okufanele babandakanywe ekukhulumeni ngokunakekelwa?
Buza umuntu bona uthemba bobani begodu ufuna babandakanywe. Inethiwekhi yakhe yesekelo ingahlanganisa umlingani womtjhado, umlingani, umngani osondelene, isihlobo namkha “umndeni okhethwe nguye”—abantu abamsekela njengomndeni ngitjho nanyana bangahlobani ngegazi. Abanye abantu bathembele emndenini ababelethwa kiwo; abanye abanjalo. Vumela umuntu ahlathulule ubudlelwano bakhe ngamagama wakhe.
Buza imibuzo esebenzisekako: Bobani abangavakatjha? Bobani okufanele abasebenzi babathinte nangabe amahlelo atjhuguluka? Bobani abangathola imininingwana? Nangabe umnikeli ufuna imvumo namkha amaphepha ngaphambi kokwabelana ngemininingwana, buza bona udingani begodu uhlathululele umuntu iinketho ezikhona. Ukuba mlingani namkha umsekeli okhethweko akutjho ngokuzenzakalelayo bona umuntu unegunya elingokomthetho lokuthatha iinqunto; imithetho iyahluka ngokuya ngendawo.
Sebenzisa ibizo lobudlelwano umuntu alithandako. Umsebenzi wokunakekela obiza umlingani ngokuthi “umngani” namkha “isihlobo” lokha umuntu afuna amukelwe njengomlingani angabangela ukuhlunguphazeka. Inothi elifitjhani, elisekelwe emvumeni, lingatjela abasebenzi indlela yokwethula abantu nokuthi ngiyiphi imininingwana engabelwana ngayo.
Ngingabuzani umnikeli wokunakekela?
Nawuqhathanisa ukunakekelwa endaweni yokuhlala, ukusekelwa ekhaya namkha iinkonzo zelangeni labantu abadala, buza umuntu bona ngiyiphi imibuzo afuna ukuyibuza nokuthi ufuna ube khona na. Umhlahlandlela we-SAGE weenkonzo ezamukelako utjho bona ukwabelana ngemininingwana yomuntu nomnikeli kungazwakala kubuthakathaka. Cela umnikeli ahlathulule iinkambiso zakhe zanje ngamagama alula.
- Nilitlolisa njani igama umuntu alithandako nendlela afuna ukubizwa ngayo? Bobani abasebenzi abangabona imininingwana leyo?
- Umuntu angakhetha njani bona bobani abavakathako begodu abe nesikhathi sangasese nomlingani namkha omunye umsekeli?
- Nifunda begodu nihlonipha njani okuthandwa mumuntu mayelana nokuhlaliswa ndawonye, izambatho nokunakekelwa komuntu?
- Ngiliphi ibandulo abasebenzi abalifumanako mayelana nabantu abadala be-LGBTQ+ abaphila nokukhohlwa okukhulu?
- Umhlali namkha umsekeli angaveza njani ukukhathazeka mayelana nefihlo namkha ukungahlonitjhwa, begodu kwenzekani ngemva kwalokho?
Umhlahlandlela we-SAGE ne-Human Rights Campaign Foundation wokunakekelwa kwesikhathi eside okumumetheko uphakamisa ukuhlola imithetho ebhaliweko mayelana nokuvakatjha, ukuhlaliswa ndawonye neenkambiso zabasebenzi. Wakhitjhwa ngo-2021; sewusebenzisele imibuzo ongayibuza, ingasi njengesitatimende somthetho wendawo wanje. Imithetho neenkonzo ziyahluka ngokuya ngendawo.
Ilogo, incwajana namkha ipendulo yinye eqinisekisako ayikghoni ukuqinisekisa bona ukunakekelwa kwelanga nelanga kuzoba njani. Nangabe umuntu ufuna ukuvakatjha, tjheja indlela abasebenzi abakhuluma naye ngayo nendlela abaphendula ngayo umlingani wakhe namkha abasekeli abakhethileko. Cela ukukhuluma nabasebenzi ngasese nangabe lokho kungasiza umuntu azizwe aphephile.
Ngingamsekela njani umuntu woke?
Buza ngezinto umuntu azithandako qobe langa, iinkambiso zakhe, ilimi lakhe, isiko lakhe, ukukholwa kwakhe, abangani bakhe nomphakathi wakhe. Ibizo lakhe lingaba liqakathekile ukukhulunywa ngalo, namkha angakhetha ukusebenzisa isikhathi kwezinye iingcenye zepilo. Ungaphenduli ukuvakatjha ngakunye kube yingcoco yebizo namkha ucabange bona boke abantu be-LGBTQ+ babe nelemuko elifanako.
Abanye abantu kungenzeka bahlangabezane nokwaliwa namkha ukubandlululwa begodu bangazizwa batjheja ngeenkonzo. Abanye bangasiboni lesi njengeraro. Lalela ngaphandle kokubawa umuntu bona ahlathulule namkha afakazele litho. Nangabe ikhumbulo, isithombe namkha indaba yangesikhathi esidlulileko imhlupha, buza bona ufuna ukuyijamisa namkha ukutjhugulula isihloko na.
Nangabe umngani, umlingani namkha isihlobo, isekelo lakho nalo liqakathekile. Buza umuntu bona ufuna ubandakanyeke njani, begodu funa ihlangano yendawo yokukhohlwa okukhulu namkha yabantu abadala be-LGBTQ+ nangabe udinga iseluleko. Ikhasi lemithombo ye-Alzheimer’s Association linamathelisa emithonjeni yomphakathi neyabanakekeli; lokho okutholakalako kuya ngokuya ngendawo ohlala kiyo.
Mayelana nerhelo elibanzi lokuqhathanisa amakhaya wokunakekela, qala ukukhetha ukunakekelwa kwendawo yokuhlala kwabantu abaphila nokukhohlwa okukhulu. Mayelana nosizo lokuhlela ngemva kokutholwa kokukhohlwa okukhulu, qala amagadango wokuthoma ngemva kokutholwa kokukhohlwa okukhulu.
Imibuzo ejayelekileko
Kufanele ngitjele abasebenzi bokunakekela bona umuntu uyi-LGBTQ+ na?
Buza umuntu bona ufuna abasebenzi bazi ini nokuthi bobani abangakwazi. Yabelana ngalokho avuma ukwabelana ngakho kuphela nakukghonakalako, begodu ubuze umnikeli bona imininingwana leyo izokutlolwa njani nokuthi bobani abangayibona.
Bobani okufanele babandakanywe ekukhulumeni ngokunakekelwa?
Buza umuntu bona uthemba bobani begodu ufuna babandakanywe. Kungaba mlingani, umngani, isihlobo namkha umndeni okhethwe nguye; ungacabangi bona isihlobo segazi ngiso ekufanele kuthintwane naso.
Kufanele ngibuze ini ikhaya lokunakekela mayelana nokwamukela abantu be-LGBTQ+?
Buza ngamagama nendlela umuntu afuna ukubizwa ngayo emarekhodini, ngokuvakatjha nesikhathi sangasese, ngokuhlaliswa ndawonye nokuthandwa ekunakekelweni komuntu, ngokuqeqetjhwa kwabasebenzi, nangendlela eemraro ezilungiswa ngayo. Cela imithetho ebhaliweko yanje nayiqakathekile.
Kuthiwani nangabe umuntu utjhugulula lokho afuna ukwabelana ngakho?
Okuthandwa mumuntu kungahluka ngokuya ngomuntu, indawo nesikhathi. Buza umuntu godu nakukghonakalako, begodu ungavezi imininingwana ngokuya ngengcoco yangaphambilini nangabe nje sewucela bona uyigcine iyifihlo.
Iminthombo
Sihlanganisa neenhlangano namaphrojekthi werhubhululo lelikhasi elisekelwe kiwo. Yinye ngayinye yahlolwa lokha ikhasi nalibuyekezwako.
- Supporting an LGBTQ+ person with dementia · Alzheimer's Society
- LGBTQ+ Community Dementia Resources · Alzheimer's Association
- 10 Tips for Finding LGBT-Affirming Services · SAGE
- Finding an LGBTQ+ Inclusive Long-Term Care Community · SAGE and Human Rights Campaign Foundation